Domestic Violence Prevention: The Story That Shocked a community.

Mary thought her life was finally improving three days after having twins. Daniel, her husband, cried when holding their newborns in the hospital. However, those hands become weapons within 72 hours.

Understanding the Reality of Domestic Violence

Warning Signs That Often Go Ignored

The Role of Society in Domestic Violence Prevention

 • Promoting bystander intervention training

Why Some Victims Stay and How Prevention Can Change That

Education: The Foundation of Domestic Violence Prevention

The Legal Side of Domestic Violence Prevention

Real-Life Prevention Strategies That Work

 Breaking the Cycle for Future Generations

 The Role of Men in Domestic Violence Prevention

 How Technology Can Help

Healing and Moving Forward After Abuse

FAQs

What role can the community play in preventing domestic violence?

Communities may set up safe shelters, sponsor helplines, launch awareness programs, and train bystanders to intervene responsibly.

Mary's account serves as a reminder that behind every number there is a person, a voice, and a heartbeat.

We cannot reverse the harm done to victims like Mary, but we can ensure that their grief motivates action, allow their tales to inspire a world where domestic violence prevention is more than a catchphrase, but a way of life.

Know that Silence protects the abusers. Action saves lives. Start preventing domestic abuse right now.

Outsiders frequently ask this question, and they often do it with judgment rather than compassion.

But what's the truth?
It is not that straightforward.
From the outside, leaving an abusive partner may appear to be the obvious choice.
However, if you are the one in that relationship, the reality is knotted in fear, humiliation, hope, manipulation, and survival.
Let us break it down.

The Emotional Trap: 

When Love Becomes a Weapon Abuse extends beyond physical harm.

It's also the silent, psychological warfare that disintegrates a person piece by piece.

Many survivors claim that the mental manipulation is greater than the physical torture.

Initially, the abuser may appear pleasant, attentive, and even passionate.
There are great gestures.
A feeling of being "chosen."  
Then control seeps in.
The insults.
The jealousy was disguised as "love."
The gaslighting.
One woman stated, "he told me I was lucky he stayed. That no one else will ever adore me. "And I believed him."
When you're made to feel useless over time, you stop believing you deserve better.
That's why many stay in Abusive relationships: it feels like the only option left.

Fear: The Invisible Chain

Why are you terrified of leaving an abusive relationship?
Because it is terrifying.
Many victims are fearful of revenge.
They are concerned about their safety, their children, and their pets.
Some abusers have threatened suicide if their partner departs.
Others stalk, harass, or become aggressive during separation.
In fact, evidence indicates that leaving is the most perilous period in an abusive relationship.
So, staying seems safer than running.
Fear is not a weakness; rather, it is a survival tactic.

Hope, the Cruelest Liar.

A bitter paradox of abuse is the belief that things will improve.

After each violent outburst, the honeymoon phase begins: tears, promises, and flowers.
"I apologize." I'll get help. "I love you."
For a little moment, they revert to their former selves.
That is what keeps people hooked.
Hope that the good times will return for good.
And the hope?
It's addictive.

Financial Dependence: When Costs Are Too High
Let's discuss logistics.
What if leaving meant not having money, a job, or a home?
Many abusers have complete control over the funds.
Some victims do not even have their own bank accounts.
This results in complete dependence and solitude.
Particularly for stay-at-home parents who have not worked in years.
Without money, leaving is not only difficult’ it is impossible.
That's why people stay in abusive relationships: survival requires it.

Children: The Guilt Weapon

Children have the ability to change everything.
Many people stay for the sake of their children, believing that growing up in a two-parent household is preferable, even if one of the parents is abusive.
But they absorb everything.
They learn that love equals fear.
Silence.
Tip-toeing around wrath.
It's complicated.
But guilt is a powerful emotion.
And abusers frequently weaponize it.
"You're breaking up the family."
"You're taking my kids away."
As a result, many people remain trapped by guilt and the fear of court fights.

Shame and stigma: The Silent Barriers.

Shame is one of the most powerful reasons that people stay in abusive relationships.
It's a shame they got "trapped."
It's a shame they remained for so long.
It's a shame that people won't trust them or, worse, blame them.
Cultural stigma also plays a big impact.
In some communities, quitting a marriage is extremely frowned upon, regardless matter how toxic it is.
That humiliation might be louder than any bruises.

Trauma Bonding: Ties That Hurt

Have you heard of trauma bonding?
The cycle of abuse and affection results in a strong psychological bond.
It's not love; it's survival-driven loyalty.
Similar to Stockholm Syndrome.
This relationship causes victims to feel emotionally attached to their abuser.
Even if they despised them.
Even if they are in danger.
Another major reason people remain in abusive relationships is that they are chemically and emotionally addicted.

 What Are the Advantages of Staying with a Narcissist?

That is a strange question, right?
But some people truly wonder: what is the point of staying with a narcissist?
On paper, none.
But emotionally?
Narcissists are typically quite charming.
They understand how to make their partners feel special’ when they want to.
Their attention can be enticing.
For people with low self-esteem, a narcissist's validation is like breathing.
And leaving means giving up that "high," even if it causes agony.

Why Are You Afraid of Leaving an Abusive Relationship?

You've been conditioned to question yourself.
Because society does not always support or believe victims.

Because you are fatigued.

Because staying is not always the worst option.

Understanding this dread is crucial if we are to support survivors.

Leaving is a process, not a singular act.

It is a process.

It takes time.

Planning.

Support.

Therapy.

Courage.

Even after leaving, there are additional challenges to face, including: custody disputes, trauma healing, and financial reconstruction.
That is why we need empathy, not judgment.
This is why people stay in abusive relationships.
Not because they are weak’ but they are doing everything they can to survive.

Isolation: The Power of Cutting People Off.

Isolation is one of the first tactics used by abusers.
They gradually isolate the victim from friends and family, creating a world in which they are the sole source of support.
It's simpler to dominate someone when they do not have anyone else.
That seclusion becomes a cage.
Even if escape is conceivable, there is no one else to turn to.

 Cultural and Belief Systems

In many cultures, abandoning a relationship’ particularly a marriage is considered taboo.
According to religious beliefs, "divorce is a sin."
Some families urge women to "stay and fix it."
When violence is normalized or ignored, victims internalize it.
They wonder if this is exactly what love is.
Another reason people stay in violent relationships is because they were taught to.

Psychological Conditioning Abuse is gradual and does not start immediately.

It progresses slowly.
Like cooking a frog in water.
The victim adapts, excuses, and rationalizes.
They think, "It was not too horrible. That was my fault. "He is just stressed."
Years later, the torture continues’ but by then, their sense of reality has vanished.
That gradual build fosters loyalty and misunderstanding.

 Lack of Support Systems

 Some victims do not have someone to call.

There are no shelters nearby.

No ride.

There are no resources.

There is no childcare.

Leaving without a support network is like taking a leap of faith.

It's not necessarily about fear, but about practicality.

When The System Fails

Here's the sad truth: not everyone who leaves gets assistance.
Restraining orders are frequently breached.
Police do not always take reports seriously.
Abusers are sometimes granted custody in family court.
The system that is designed to aid can cause re-traumatization.
Many people stay because the system failed to protect them the previous time they tried.

FAQs

Why do people stay in abusive relationships?
They stay due to fear, financial reliance, trauma bonding, manipulation, and the belief that things will improve.

What are the advantages of sticking with a narcissist?
Narcissists frequently exhibit emotional dependency, providing intense attention that feels validating despite the harm.

Why are you terrified of leaving an abusive relationship?
Because leaving might lead to greater violence, emotional breakdown, or entire life upheaval without a support structure.

How do abusers get their victims to stay?
They utilize guilt, gaslighting, threats, love bombing, isolation, and financial control to emotionally trap their victims.

Is trauma bonding real?
Yes, trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse in which the victim develops a strong and painful attachment to the abuser.

When people hear the term domestic violence, images of physical bruises, black eyes, or broken bones often come to mind. But one of the most insidious—and frequently overlooked—forms of abuse leaves no visible scars: emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse is a pattern of behavior in which one person uses manipulation, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, or control to erode another person’s sense of self-worth and autonomy. 

While it may not draw immediate attention like physical assault, emotional abuse can be equally—if not more—devastating. 

Victims often suffer in silence, unsure if what they’re experiencing "counts" as abuse, or worse, believing they are to blame.

In the United States, emotional abuse is alarmingly common. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, nearly half of all women and one-third of all men in the U.S. have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime. 

That includes name-calling, controlling behavior, gaslighting, threats, and even financial abuse—tactics designed to dominate and destabilize.

But emotional abuse isn't limited to romantic relationships. It can happen in families, workplaces, religious institutions, foster homes, or anywhere a person has power over another. 

Often, it exists alongside physical or sexual abuse, making it a dangerous foundation for escalation. 

In fact, emotional abuse is a major precursor to more violent acts, with victims at a higher risk of experiencing physical harm or even death.

What makes emotional abuse especially dangerous is that it doesn’t leave bruises you can photograph. It chips away at a person’s self-esteem, sense of safety, and trust in others over time. 

Victims may feel confused, isolated, and emotionally paralyzed, often staying in abusive environments far longer than they should due to fear, guilt, or lack of support.

In recent years, a wave of survivors and advocates have begun to pull back the curtain on emotional and psychological abuse, helping the public understand that abuse doesn’t always look violent. High-profile cases and powerful survivor testimonies have ignited national conversations around coercive control, trauma bonding, and emotional neglect—topics that were once taboo or misunderstood.

As laws slowly begin to catch up, and as support services grow more nuanced in their responses, emotional abuse is finally being recognized for what it is: a serious form of violence that destroys lives from the inside out.

Top 10 Most Shocking Emotional Abuse Cases in the U.S.

Let’s look at some of the most heartbreaking, high-profile, and instructive emotional abuse cases from across the United States. 

These stories offer not just grim reminders of how far abuse can go, but also valuable lessons on resilience, justice, and the urgent need for systemic change.

1. Cassie Ventura vs. Sean “Diddy” Combs (2025)

Singer Cassie Ventura testified in a federal sex-trafficking trial against music mogul Sean “Diddy” Combs, alleging a decade of emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. 

She described being coerced into non-consensual acts, enduring violent assaults, and experiencing severe psychological manipulation that derailed her career. Despite a prior $20 million civil settlement, Ventura's detailed courtroom testimony brought renewed attention to the case. 

2. Halle Bailey's Restraining Order Against DDG (2025)

Actress and singer Halle Bailey was granted a temporary restraining order against her ex-boyfriend, Darryl Dwayne Granberry Jr. (DDG), citing ongoing emotional, physical, and financial abuse. 

Bailey reported incidents including physical assault, property damage, and online harassment, leading her to seek sole custody of their child and supervised visitation for DDG. 

3. Cristina Pangalangan's Death Due to Neglect (2019)

Thirteen-year-old Cristina Pangalangan, who had cerebral palsy and was non-verbal, died from hyperthermia after being left in a hot car for nearly six hours while her mother and boyfriend engaged in drug use nearby. 

The case highlighted severe neglect and emotional abandonment, leading to murder and child abuse convictions for both adults involved. 

4. Turpin Family Abuse Case (2018)

David and Louise Turpin were convicted of torturing and emotionally abusing their 13 children over decades. The children were subjected to extreme isolation, starvation, and psychological manipulation, with some chained to beds for extended periods. 

The case shocked the nation and raised concerns about unnoticed familial abuse. 

5. Gravelle Foster Child Abuse Cases (2003)

Michael and Sharen Gravelle were found guilty of abusing their 11 adopted children by confining them in cage-like enclosures and subjecting them to strict, punitive measures under the guise of therapy. 

The case brought attention to the need for oversight in adoptive and foster care systems. 

6. Murder of Elisa Izquierdo (1995)

Six-year-old Elisa Izquierdo suffered prolonged emotional and physical abuse at the hands of her mother, leading to her death. Despite multiple reports to child welfare services, interventions were insufficient. 

Her case led to the enactment of "Elisa's Law," aimed at reforming child protective services. 

7. Murder of Sylvia Likens (1965)

Teenager Sylvia Likens was subjected to months of emotional and physical torture by her caregiver, Gertrude Baniszewski, and others, culminating in her death. 

The case is one of the most notorious instances of child abuse in U.S. history, highlighting the dangers of unchecked domestic environments. 

8. Hart Family Murders (2018)

Jennifer and Sarah Hart murdered their six adopted children in a murder-suicide by driving off a cliff. Prior to the incident, the children were subjected to emotional abuse, including food deprivation and isolation.

The case raised questions about the monitoring of adoptive families and child welfare. 

9. Theresa Knorr's Abuse of Her Children (1980s)

Theresa Knorr inflicted severe emotional and physical abuse on her children, including confinement, beatings, and psychological torment. Her actions led to the deaths of two daughters and highlighted the extreme consequences of unchecked familial abuse. 

10. Jamie's Story of Domestic Abuse

Jamie endured over six years of emotional, mental, and financial abuse from her partner, leading to isolation and psychological trauma. Her story underscores the challenges victims face in recognizing and escaping abusive relationships.

AGC GS, Rev Paul Emeka

The apostolic visit of the General Superintendent (GS) of Assemblies of God Church, Nigeria (AG) Rev. Professor Paul Emeka on Sunday to the Abuja Central District of the Church in Gwarinpa, stirred excitement after he advised President Bola Tinubu to buckle up as Nigerians are crying for help.

 The GS Emeka stormed the central district amidst the church’s Council Meeting and the International Father’s Day celebration for a three-day apostolic visit from Friday, June 14 to Sunday June 16, 2024.

The official visit came after a year since he last graced the district he inaugurated.

The grand finale of the event which was held on Sunday at the Assemblies of God Church International Worship Centre, Gwarimpa, Abuja with theme, ‘The Father’s Blessing,’ saw the attendance of top church leadership and ambassadors. 

As a critical part of the apostolic visit, the GS, Rev. Emeka inaugurated the five newly elected district presbyters of the Abuja Central District of the church who were elected at the Council Meeting held on Saturday.

The officials are: Rev. Emeka Eze (PHD) who was elected as the District Superintendent of Abuja Central District; Rev. Emmanuel Omole, the Assistant District Superintendent; Rev. Abraham Odey as the District Secretary; Rev. Femi Omole, the District Treasurer and Rev. Theophilus Augustine, who is a member (Presbyter).

During his sermon, the GS who believes in innovation admonished the leaders to work for the good of the church and humanity. The GS described their election as “God’s choice” adding that they are vessels who would drive the desired change.

 “As the GS of Assemblies of God Church, I came here and I discovered that this branch is doing fine and it is very lively. Their worship is in line with our doctrine and I am happy as a father,” Prof. Emeka said during an interview at the sideline of the event.

Speaking on his expectations, Prof Emeka, said the agenda of the church is to drive growth and contribute its quota to the Nigerian government.

The GS explained, “This election is under a programme we call Council Meeting which is done every three years. As for what I am expecting from them, I am expecting them to move the work forward so that people will have access to the gospel, the church of Jesus Christ moving and people will be edified. 

“It will enable the people and the church to contribute their quota to the government of Nigeria and align our activities with what the government is doing.”

He further admonished Nigerians not to lose hope because “God is alive”.

The GS added, “But at the same time, the government should buckle up because the masses are crying. People are crying and the government should do their best. We are praying for them. There is no need telling the people to pray. The church is praying. 

“So, all we are saying is that the government should justify the prayers that the masses and the churches in particular are praying for them and to do the right thing so that there will be smiles on the faces of the people.”

The newly elected District Superintendent, Abuja Central District, Rev. Emeka Eze expressed excitement with the visit of the Assemblies of God GS to his church.

Rev. Eze described his principal as a role model who has raised a lot of leaders adding that the GS is in charge of over 30,000 pastors across Nigeria. According to him, the GS taught at least 10,000 Assemblies of God Church pastors.

“Today is so special because today is International Father’s Day and we have the father of Assemblies of God Church, the General Superintendent, Rev Prof. Paul Emeka who came to bless us. I’m so happy because the truth is, any man without a father has no feathers to fly high. 

“They (fathers) are like feathers to fly. His prophetic word has shown us steps to climb as a church and as individuals,” said Rev. Eze.

The clergyman vowed to use the new role to drive change that would impact his members and the country. 

Rev. Eze affirmed his commitment to using the gospel to transform lives. He believes the best way to drive economic prosperity and peace in the country is by teaching and mentoring future leaders. 

He said, “The agenda we have set is that the gospel of the kingdom must be preached before the end comes. If there is any mandate that Jesus Christ gave the church, it is to preach to the nations of the world.

“This gospel is the answer to the challenges of the world. If people can receive Christ into their hearts, there will be no insecurity, there will be no crime and the leaders will get it right because Proverbs 29:2 says when the righteous is on the throne the people will rejoice.

“So, nations and kingdoms have problems today because of bad leadership and when leadership fails everything fails. So, if people connect to God, God will help them to manage the people and any leadership area that God has handed to them.”